I have heard it a number of times now. “Why do you care about the recent supreme court ruling regarding homosexual marriage? Is your life somehow different?” The message is “It does not change the legalities of your heterosexual marriage, so it should not matter to you if the same rights are extended to homosexuals.” Oh, but it does.
The ruling does not make a direct difference in my marriage, but it makes a huge impact on the world in which I am turning over my children to in a few years, along with one in which those of my faith live. Many fear the legal action that they will incur while attempting to hold up God’s law despite the law that man has made. So, no my marriage is not affected, just the rest of the society in which I live.
I have a God-given responsibility to teach scripture to the two children I have been blessed with. It scares me to think that within the next three years I will be turning both of my children over to a school environment that will be able to teach him ideologies that are in direct conflict with the scriptures they will be learning at home and school.
From a peer perspective, how much persecution will my children face when they attempt to uphold scripture? What impact will it have on their psyche when they are being sent conflicting messages between culture and church?
We have the option of pursing private Christian education, but how long will conservative Christian schools be allowed to openly uphold scripture over the law of the land? How long before the government steps in and bans institutions from teaching a system of beliefs that are not in line with the law?
Sure, I could homeschool them (and, this is not against those who choose that route). At some point though they will have to enter the “real” world and experience the conflicts that come with attempting to stand by scripture when society is teaching them anything but the truth. At what age do I do that? Do I do it when they are too young to really understand what is being taught and run the risk of exposing them to ideas that they accept as truth because an adult tells them it is? Should I wait until they are adolescents? At that point parents traditionally become the least knowledgeable people on the planet. The teachings of their peers is much more appealing. I could homeschool them K-12, but transitioning to college is often overwhelming, let alone for someone attempting to incorporate an entirely different societal belief system than what they were taught for the previous 18 years.
How long do I protect my children while also preparing them to function in the world in which they have to live?
From the standpoint of my fellow believers, how long do we have before we see lawsuits filed because we cannot support homosexual marriage? In our area we already have a judge who is being sharply criticized for stepping aside from presiding over a homosexual marriage. Another judge took the case and the homosexual couple was able to be married a bit later in the day. People are calling for his resignation because of his beliefs, stating that he is unable to uphold the law. Do you know how many marriages would be impacted by allowing another judge to participate in a homosexual marriage while respecting the assigned judge’s religious beliefs? In the USA, less than 4% of the population identify themselves as homosexual. Given that they are marrying each other, it would constitute less than 2% of all marriages. Marriage is only a small segment of the judge’s responsibility. So, because he is unwilling to perform less than 2% of marriages, due to a conflict with his beliefs about homosexuality, when it not even his primary roll, he can no longer practice as a judge?
Why can’t we honor the right for someone to not violate their religious beliefs? This is not a rarely held religious belief. Depending on the poll, somewhere between 40-45% of Americans believe that homosexuality is a sin. With the acceptance of homosexual marriage in the setting of the law, 40-45% of us are being asked to violate our beliefs for the sake of the 4%. It strikes me that we do not see the media reporting this subject in the context of the actual statistical impact that this subject has.
Will churches be able to speak out against homosexuality? What if a minister refuses to participate over a homosexual marriage? How many more times will my brothers and sisters in Christ be drug into the courtroom due to their beliefs about homosexuality and inability to support it?
To say that the ruling that legalized the recognition of gay marriage has no impact on me is naïve at best. Nearly every facet of my life outside of the narrow confines of my actual legal marriage to my husband is impacted. I hope more Christians start speaking out with me. The ripple effect of this decision is far greater than just the legalities. The influence it has on our society is profound. And, as long as I am being asked to continue to function in the world in which I live, the direct impact on me is huge. This is why I care!